I'm a firm believer in getting 'Mom time'. Some days I get less of it while others I make sure to pop out by myself to grab an iced coffee and read or work on a project. Then, the guilt sits in. Maybe I should go back...I wonder if everything is OK. I cut my me time short and head home to find everything is fantastic ( or on some days she missed me the entire hour I was gone)
Although I do attachment parenting as well as homeschool, I don't believe that my thoughts, desires, passions, and all that makes me me do not matter or come second. I know that the happier and healthier I am, the better Mom I am. Parenting young children is exceptionally challenging, even on the 'good' days. Attachment parenting ( babywearing, cosleeping, breastfeeding) young children can make it even tougher to pencil in a date night, let alone Mom time. But it is essential and what I have found one must take that time, not be expected to have it handed to them. We're not on the clock. There is no punch card for us. Even if you need to find a caring wonderful babysitter for a few hours a week and pop off next door for a hot cocoa or lunch, do it. It will make you savor being a Mom even more than if we ignore our desires and feelings and lock them up in a cage, pretending we don't matter.
I know what I did wrong as a young Mom, and what we will do differently whenever we have our next baby. We will make sure to have moments to ourselves, and will actively seek out someone who our kids love and can watch them a few times a week. Best case scenario my Mom, but if that doesn't happen we won't get discouraged.
Take your Mom time. Make it a priority. Do NOT feel guilty for it, you have earned it!!
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